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The Weekly Mess || Week 2

Have you ever found yourself wondering why events unfold the way they do in life?

I do, I’m always seeking to find the answer to life’s BIG questions like that. Sometimes, especially after a particulary trying period of time, the answer to a “why is this happening to us?” period comes through clear as a bell and there is no denying that fate had a hand in leading you to where you are and that whether you believe in soul mates, divine intervention, or God something bigger than you is ultimately at work! 

Girl in a blue jean overall dress with a white t-shirt underneath and blonde hair is hugging a black and white spotted great dane.
Photo by Emma K. Morris

On the weekend of her 16th birthday our daughter came to us with a 27-page Power Point presentation highlighting ALL the reasons we should pick up our lives in California and move back to Georgia.

Insert stunned face emoji here! Eliza had been the victim of some pretty intense bullying by a handful of REALLY mean girls during her middle school and early high school career, so we should have probably seen it coming. But, we didn’t. 

Naturally, we immediately shut down the idea – I mean, who wouldn’t? The idea of putting our family through a 4th cross country move was virtually unfathomable to Todd and I not to mention unaffordable. But then, something funny happened. Fate, the birthday wish fairy, or God, whatever you choose to believe in set about their work, and the events of the next couple of months made it pretty impossible to ignore, the cards were lining up for a move back south and SOON! 

Shortly after Eliza’s birthday celebrations were over, Todd received multiple job offers from different companies in Georgia, the landlord that owned the home we had lived in for over 5 years and had helped redesign/renovate suddenly decided that she was going to sell the house, and we literally couldn’t find any homes in our school district that fit our families needs within our budget. So, we decided to take the leap, accept one of those job offers, and make the long move back to Georgia, again.

A woman in a blue sleeveless shirt and a girl in a blue jean overall dress and white t-shirt are sitting in a cafe.
Photo by Emma K. Morris

In June of 2018 we packed our belongings and began an epic 10-day trip across the country to our new home!

We had already rented a home online, and had everything lined up for a smooth transition. We were feeling good, looking forward to things ahead, and our daughter was ecstatic about spending her last 2 years of high school in the south. But then, we arrived in Atlanta and everything fell apart.  The home we had rented, was a disaster – it was completely misrepresented online and we couldn’t live there. I’ll spare you all of the stressful details, but in a nutshell, there was only 1 other house in the area we wanted to live available to rent at the time. It was much bigger than we needed and in a completely different school zone than we planned on, but we literally had no choices left because the kid’s started school in a matter of days and we had to get settled. 

The first few weeks were a blur, for all of us. But, the boxes were dwindling and the kid’s were starting to make friends. We were beyond ready for the new normal to begin….

2 girls on teh front of a boat in Boca Raton Florida. One girl has long dark braids, sunglasses, a gray t-shirt and blue jean shorts and the other has a ponytail, red t-shirt and black shorts.

Then our daughter met Salome, a lovely German exchange student that was in a few of her classes at school. It wasn’t long before they realized that she lived in our neighborhood too. She just happened to be placed with a host family that lived one street over from us. Their connection was instant, their life histories, eerily similar. It was like they had been in each other’s lives forever! 

Over the week’s that followed Salome was at our home regularly and our entire family fell in love with her. Todd was able to put the few years of German he took in school to use and Salome, being a vegetarian, really appreciated the meals created in our kitchen. During our conversations with her we learned that the exchange student organization she was here in the United States with was looking for a new host family for her because, the family she had been placed with was strongly considering relocation to another state during the school year. 

All of the sudden it became crystal clear why things happened the way they did for us during the move! We knew exactly why things went so horribly wrong no matter how hard we tried to make things work the way that we thought they should.

2 girls in a red canoe on the water in Boca Raton Florida. There is a floating tiki hut and palm trees behind them.

I am a big believer in soul mates – not just romantic ones, but people that come into our lives as friends that quickly become family. Just thinking about all of the events that had to transpire and line up just perfectly for us to leave California and for her to leave Germany so that we could all be right here, at the right place, at the right time. Honestly, its undeniable, and it gives me goosebumps! These two girls were destined to be in each other’s lives and nothing would have ever gotten in the way of them connecting with one another.

Needless to say, Todd and I made the decision to do the only thing that felt right – to open our home, turn that extra empty bedroom into a place Salome could live for the next 6 months, and go through the application process with the exchange student organization. And in the very last week of 2018, we were finally approved and Salome moved all of her things into our home. Although we embarked upon this journey a few short months ago, having her here has already brought an incredible amount of joy and laughter into our home and this entire experience is shaping up to be a life changing one for all of us.

2 girls on the beach in Boca Raton Florida

FINALLY, our new normal!  As I reflect on the events of the last year that led us here, I know that without a shadow of a doubt this experience is completely different than what we could have ever imagined for ourselves, but it is exactly what we all we needed! 

That’s it for this week, I have so much more to share with you in the weeks ahead. Don’t forget to check out all the delicious eats I dished up at our table last week below! 

xoxo, Meg

PS: Currently, we are on the lookout for fun family experiences and things to do/see in and around Georgia, Tennessee, and Alabama. As well as classic American recipes we can make here at home for Salome to try. Please, share any recommendations or recipes you may have in the comments below so we can add them to our list! 

THE WEEKLY MESS HALL || 1.14.2019

Our modern family table seats an eclectic bunch of eaters and I am tasked with feeding them all breakfast, lunch, and dinner! While there are only 5 of us gathering at the table each evening, between us the dietary restrictions and preferences can be a bit overwhelming and finding the answer to the question “What’s for dinner?” a bit nerve wracking. Over the years, I have developed a system that combines meal planning and big batch cooking throughout the week. It works for us, it keeps me sane, and we’re all VERY well fed!

A blue bowl of lentil soup is on a table top and has a metal spoon sitting next to it. The soup is garnished with a swirl of yogurt and chopped parsley
Photo by So…Let’s Hang Out

MONDAY || Lentil Soup with Lemon Yogurt Cream by So …Let’s Hang Out (BIG BATCH TIP: Use leftovers for lunches or ready made vegetarian main dishes.) +  Homemade Corn Bread  

This lentil soup has been on the cold weather rotation for YEARS now and I don’t think there will ever be a winter where I don’t make a couple of pots. It’s super hearty, smells amazing, and has a flavor that is far superior to other lentil soups we’ve tried thanks to the addition of cinnamon!

A baking rectangular baking dish full of cheesy broccoli rice casserole is sitting on top of a table top. There are crushed crackers on top of the casserole.
Photo by Joseph De Leo for The New York Times.

TUESDAY || Cheesy Broccoli Rice Casserole on NYT Food (BIG BATCH TIP: This makes 10 servings, perfect for feeding a crowd but even better as a leftover vegetarian main dish) + Butter Lettuce Salad from Modern Proper

Broccoli cheddar casserole was a staple for me growing up, but my mom’s version was made with canned cream of something unrecognizable soup. This version is made with a homemade cheese sauce that is so decadent you’ll wonder why you ever put the canned stuff in your casserole too! If you are looking to make this gluten free like we did you can substitute the Ritz crackers for crushed, gluten free, Lance brand crackers. They are super buttery and delicious just like a Ritz!  

A gray bowl is filled with white rice and topped with Mongolian beef and scallions.
Photo by The Recipe Critic

WEDNESDAY || Mongolian Beef by The Recipe Critic + Jasmine Rice 

Tonight my vegetarian’s feast on leftovers from Monday & Tuesday’s meal while my kid’s and I indulge in a homemade version of our FAVORITE P.F. Changs menu item! TBH I was super skeptical at first about how this would turn out, but let me tell you it was DELICIOUS and I may never need to visit P.F.Changs again which will make my pocket book extremely happy! 

THURSDAY || Gluten Free English Muffin Pizzas

This might be the easiest recipe ever which I reserve for evenings when I am feeling too lazy to cook. All you do is top toasted English Muffins (Canyon Bakehouse makes the most delicious gluten free ones!)  with a few spoonfuls of pasta sauce, cheese, and your favorite pizza toppings. Put under the broiler until the cheese is melted and the pizza is warmed through. 

A woman hands are holding an autumn spiced veggie birger , it has the burger patty which is laced with shreds of kale and sweet potato, for garnishes on the burger there is a large piece of butter lettuce, thinly sliced red onion, and slices of avocado

FRIDAY || Autumn Spiced Veggie Burgers + Roasted Fingerling Potatoes with Herbs by Tyler Florence

These veggie burgers are one of my all-time favorite recipes. Simple to make, delicious to eat, and super good for you too! Even our meat eaters get excited about these burgers hitting the table. I almost always serve these up with some form of roasted potato because I just can’t have a burger without something that closely resembles a fry! 

A close up image of a pear scone with dark chocolate chips, sparkling sugar, and fresh pear icing. The background behind the scone is black and silver metal.

TREATS || Dark Chocolate Pear Scones & Apple and Maple Baked Oatmeal from The Modern Proper (BIG BATCH TIP: These oats make a whopping 10 servings!! Reheat chilled squares of this oatmeal for 30 seconds in the microwave with a sprinkle of brown sugar and a splash of milk for hot breakfasts. I also sent squares without the added milk and sugar in Todd’s lunch this week for hearty oat bars.) 

Grab and go pastries like my Dark Chocolate & Pear Scones are a must for Todd and I since we almost always eat breakfast on the go, but our kids spent the weekday mornings feasting on the coziest of breakfasts, baked oatmeal. If you bake this big batch of oats on Sunday you’ll have easy breakfasts and snacks for most of the week, or in our case, until Wednesday morning. Man, this crew can EAT! 

Comments

  1. what fun it was to read about your family’s fated journey – the stars aligned!
    It was so troubling to read about your daughter being bullied in California. It makes me so so sad that this sort of ugliness is so much a part of every day life. The last thing we want is for our children to feel abused, by anyone.
    Happy happy days ahead with your new soul sister, vegetarian deliciousness and your new home back in Georgia.
    A delightful blog post!

    • I’m so glad you liked the post! Honestly, I knew kids could be cruel, but these girls took it to a level I could have never imagined. It’s so wonderful to see the girl’s so genuinely happy just to be in each other’s presence. I can’t wait to see where their journey takes them!

  2. LisaP in CA

    I was so sad to hear that you were leaving CA, but knowing the experiences Eliza was having, I completely understood. I’ve contemplated huge changes for us for similar reasons. It warmed my heart to see that she is now happy and has a close friend / sister. I’ve only been to GA a time or two, but we enjoyed the Coca-Cola museum and aquarium while we were there. Walk around the Georgia Tech campus if you have a chance. It’s really beautiful and as a GA resident, tuition is more affordable.

    • Awww hey Lisa!! It really was a gut wrenching decision for all of us, we just love our friends there and the city of Long Beach so much. Ultimately, we know now that we made the right decision, but taking that leap last year was SO terrifying. Salome just visited the State Capital and Georgia Tech last week. Now she is demanding that Eliza walk around the campus too so she can see how amazing it is.

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Meg van der Kruik is the writer, mother, photographer, designer, cook and creative spirit behind This Mess is Ours. After her infant son was diagnosed with a gluten allergy, she dedicated herself to learning to make meals the whole family would love. It’s a bit of a mess – cooking for a vegetarian and three meat-eaters with a range of gluten + dairy sensitivities, but she manages to bring them together every night around their little family table.